tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2893308137328665120.post6014469772645134115..comments2023-08-06T07:55:18.243-07:00Comments on That was the plan: On Being AngryMs. Plannerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01409133656377265127noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2893308137328665120.post-18177499874525714022007-06-15T19:02:00.000-07:002007-06-15T19:02:00.000-07:00Oh, I did this EXACT same thing for close to a yea...Oh, I did this EXACT same thing for close to a year. I blamed D for making us wait, and I convinced myself things would've been different, better, if we'd tried sooner. And that bitterness and resentment nearly got us divorced. We came very close to it, actually.<BR/> <BR/>It sounds like you are also a little angry with yourself for not fighting harder to try sooner - that's even harder than being upset with someone else. <BR/><BR/>Even though you might wonder about what might have been, try to let go of the resentment and anger. It might even mean counseling for you or the two of you if that would help. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there.tipsymariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01001979206200298238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2893308137328665120.post-55377437628312487632007-06-15T17:19:00.000-07:002007-06-15T17:19:00.000-07:00There is no way to know what could have been. Wha...There is no way to know what could have been. What is important is that you made responsible decisions about building a career, finances, and your relationship with Cowboy. All of these things mean you are truly ready to be a mom; it just sucks that nature isn't cooperating. I think things will work out, and you'll be happy that you invested so much into yourselves first. I'm sorry the road to reach that is crappy! Hang in there.Laura, the (reluctant) baronesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13708166760532744494noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2893308137328665120.post-19678651338641701802007-06-15T01:20:00.000-07:002007-06-15T01:20:00.000-07:00I do this too. We'd been together nearly 8 years w...I do this too. We'd been together nearly 8 years we got before we got married and didn't start trying until after. But S is younger than me and wouldn't have been happy starting any sooner so I have to accept it I guess.Carohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08210823139583056706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2893308137328665120.post-84406553996710892842007-06-14T20:41:00.000-07:002007-06-14T20:41:00.000-07:00You just can't think the 'What Ifs'. I totally ag...You just can't think the 'What Ifs'. I totally agree with Sticky Bun- you followed your heart. You & Cowboy did what you both felt was right at the time. There's no way of knowing what would have happened should you tried earlier but there's no point in putting your energy there. Its just not worth it. I know, easier said than done. <BR/><BR/>Sending big hugs to you. :)Amy Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12842619390377450284noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2893308137328665120.post-6837458706137575992007-06-14T19:02:00.000-07:002007-06-14T19:02:00.000-07:00One of my favorite movies is "Sliding Doors." If y...One of my favorite movies is "Sliding Doors." If you haven't seen it, it's a good Saturday afternoon rental. Essentially, it follows the main character and shows how her life would have turned out differently if she had just caught a train instead of missed it. In the end (um...spoiler alert), it turns out the life that all along seemed the better of the two ends badly. It's the life that seemed the sadder of the two that turns out well.<BR/><BR/>I'm not trying to pollyanna out on you here...I guess my point is just that, as you say, there's no way of knowing what might have lay behind that other door. But, since you followed your heart and did what you both truly felt was best for your family, I have a feeling it was the right decision and that it will turn out well, however that looks in the end.<BR/><BR/>But, for what it's worth, I think it's totally legitimate to be angry...about all of this. Just try to be gentle with yourself and Cowboy.<BR/><BR/>Hang in there. Thinking of you...Mama Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07828936673145226848noreply@blogger.com